stiff upper lip
Meaning
Calm self-control in a difficult situation; not showing fear, sadness, or emotion.
Origin
Linked to British ideals of stoicism and restraint (especially among the upper classes). Recorded from the 19th century; the image is of keeping the upper lip from trembling when upset.
Notes
Often associated with British stoicism. Can be approving (“be brave”) or critical/ironic (“emotionally repressed”). Common in commentary and advice.
Examples
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Even after the bad news, she kept a stiff upper lip and finished the presentation.
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He tried to maintain a stiff upper lip at the funeral, but his eyes gave him away.
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The team lost in the final seconds, yet their captain showed a stiff upper lip in the interview.
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My grandfather always taught us to keep a stiff upper lip when things go wrong.
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I admire how you kept a stiff upper lip during the layoffs and helped everyone stay calm.
Grammar & Usage Notes
Usually in phrases like “keep a stiff upper lip,” “with a stiff upper lip,” or “have a stiff upper lip.” Fixed noun phrase; article often “a.”
Synonyms
- stoicism
- keep your chin up
- keep it together
- keep calm
- grin and bear it
Antonyms
- wear your heart on your sleeve
- break down
- lose it