put your nose out of joint
Meaning
To offend, annoy, or upset someone—often by slighting them, taking their place, or hurting their pride.
Origin
From the idea of a nose being physically knocked “out of joint,” causing pain and discomfort. By the 17th–18th centuries it was used figuratively for being put out, disgruntled, or insulted.
Notes
Somewhat old-fashioned; common in UK usage. Implies bruised pride or feeling slighted/displaced rather than deep anger.
Examples
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When she promoted Tom instead of Maya, it really put Maya's nose out of joint.
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I didn't mean to put your nose out of joint by inviting him first.
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His brother's success has always put his nose out of joint.
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Don't let a small mistake put your nose out of joint for the rest of the day.
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The sudden change of plans put everyone's nose out of joint.
Grammar & Usage Notes
Usually used as: (something) put(s) your/his/her nose out of joint. Pronouns vary; tense changes (put/puts). Often with “a bit/a little” to soften. Less common as an imperative.
Synonyms
- offend
- annoy
- upset
- ruffle (someone's) feathers
- put someone's back up
Antonyms
- keep someone happy
- win someone over
- smooth things over