penny for your thoughts
Meaning
A way to ask someone what they are thinking, especially when they are quiet or seem distracted.
Origin
Recorded from the early 1500s in English. A “penny” represents a small price offered to “buy” someone’s thoughts—an invitation to share what’s on their mind.
Notes
A gentle, sometimes slightly old-fashioned way to invite someone to share their thoughts when they seem quiet. Friendly/neutral; can feel nosy if used with strangers or tense situations.
Examples
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You’ve been quiet all evening—penny for your thoughts?
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I can tell something’s on your mind; penny for your thoughts.
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Penny for your thoughts—are you worried about the interview tomorrow?
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He stared out the window for a long time, so I asked, “Penny for your thoughts?”
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We sat in silence for a minute, and she finally said, “Penny for your thoughts.”
Grammar & Usage Notes
Usually used as a standalone question: “A penny for your thoughts?” Often preceded by “So,” or “Hey,”. Fixed phrase; “a penny” and “your thoughts” are typically not altered.
Synonyms
- what's on your mind
- what are you thinking
- care to share
- a penny for them (informal variant)
Antonyms
- keep it to yourself
- hold your tongue
- say nothing