let bygones be bygones
Meaning
To forgive and forget past disagreements or offenses; stop bringing up old problems and move on.
Origin
From the noun "bygone" meaning "something past." The phrase became common in English by the 1500s–1600s as a proverb-like call to stop revisiting past grievances.
Notes
Common, neutral phrase for reconciliation. It suggests not revisiting past wrongs; can sound dismissive if the issue was serious or unresolved.
Examples
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We argued last year, but I think it’s time to let bygones be bygones and start fresh.
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After the lawsuit was settled, both sides agreed to let bygones be bygones and move on.
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I know you’re still upset, but can we let bygones be bygones and enjoy the trip?
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He apologized sincerely, and she decided to let bygones be bygones.
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If we want this team to work, we’ll have to let bygones be bygones and focus on what’s ahead.
Grammar & Usage Notes
Fixed pattern: "let bygones be bygones" (usually imperative). "Bygones" is plural; rarely varied. Can be used after "we should/let’s": "We should let bygones be bygones."
Synonyms
- forgive and forget
- move on
- bury the hatchet
- put the past behind us
Antonyms
- hold a grudge
- bear a grudge
- harp on the past
- rehash old grievances