keep up appearances
Meaning
To maintain an outward image of success or normality, often hiding problems or true feelings.
Origin
From the older sense of “appearance” meaning outward show or public image. Popularized in 19th‑century English, notably by Anthony Trollope’s novel title “The Way We Live Now” featuring the phrase and by general Victorian-era concern with respectability.
Notes
Often implies pretence or putting on a front, sometimes with a critical or ironic tone. Common in contexts like money, status, family issues, or workplace image.
Examples
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Even after losing his job, he kept up appearances and acted like everything was fine.
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They were struggling financially, but they kept up appearances by hosting lavish parties.
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She smiled through the meeting to keep up appearances, though she was exhausted.
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He bought an expensive suit just to keep up appearances at the office.
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The couple stayed together for years mainly to keep up appearances for their friends and family.
Grammar & Usage Notes
Usually used as “keep up appearances” (plural). Common patterns: keep up appearances; keep up appearances for/with someone; keep up appearances by + -ing. Less common: “keep up the appearances.”
Synonyms
- put on a front
- keep up a facade
- maintain a facade
- save face
Antonyms
- be genuine
- be honest
- show your true colors
- tell it like it is