hold a grudge
Meaning
To keep feeling resentful or angry about a past wrong for a long time.
Origin
Grudge comes from an old sense meaning “complaint” or “ill will.” To “hold” one suggests keeping that resentment in your mind instead of letting it go.
Notes
Common and slightly negative: implies you can’t let go of resentment. Often used about personal relationships; “don’t hold a grudge” is a frequent admonition.
Examples
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I don’t hold a grudge, but I don’t want to work with him again.
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She still holds a grudge against her old boss for taking credit for her ideas.
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It’s not worth holding a grudge over a small misunderstanding.
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He tends to hold a grudge for years if someone embarrasses him.
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I apologized, but he’s holding a grudge and won’t return my calls.
Grammar & Usage Notes
Usually used as “hold a grudge (against someone)” or “hold grudges.” Verb inflects (holds/held/holding). The article is typically “a” in the singular.
Synonyms
- bear a grudge
- nurse a grudge
- harbor resentment
- carry a grudge
Antonyms
- forgive
- let it go
- bear no ill will
- move on