give someone the cold shoulder
Meaning
To deliberately ignore someone or treat them in an unfriendly, distant way, often to show disapproval or lack of interest.
Origin
Commonly linked to an old notion of offering an unwelcome guest a cold shoulder of meat instead of warm hospitality; now a metaphor for chilly, dismissive treatment.
Notes
Conveys intentional, chilly ignoring that signals disapproval or rejection. Common in everyday speech and writing; can sound harsh/accusatory, so use carefully in sensitive contexts.
Examples
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After the argument, she gave him the cold shoulder all weekend.
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I tried to apologize, but my coworker just gave me the cold shoulder.
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He started giving me the cold shoulder once he found out I got the promotion.
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Don’t give your guests the cold shoulder—invite them in and offer a drink.
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She felt hurt when her friends gave her the cold shoulder at lunch.
Grammar & Usage Notes
Usually used as a verb phrase: give(s)/gave/has given someone the cold shoulder. Object is a person/group. Often with adverbs (openly, completely). Article is typically “the,” not “a.”
Synonyms
- snub someone
- shun someone
- ignore someone
- give someone the brush-off
- freeze someone out
Antonyms
- welcome someone warmly
- embrace someone
- treat someone kindly
- make someone feel welcome