give and take
Meaning
Mutual compromise: each side both gives something up and accepts something in return to reach agreement.
Origin
From the ordinary actions of giving and receiving; by the 18th–19th centuries it was used figuratively for reciprocity in relationships and negotiation—each party yields something and gains something.
Notes
Usually positive/neutral, emphasizing reciprocity and compromise in negotiations or relationships; can imply you can’t get everything you want.
Examples
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A good relationship needs a bit of give and take from both people.
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Negotiating the contract was all about give and take, not getting everything we wanted.
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Teamwork is give and take—sometimes you lead, and sometimes you support.
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If you want the project to run smoothly, you’ll need some give and take with other departments.
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Parenting involves constant give and take as your child grows and needs change.
Grammar & Usage Notes
Often used as a noun phrase: “It’s a matter of give and take.” Also after verbs like “require/need”: “Relationships require give and take.” Typically fixed order (give then take).
Synonyms
- compromise
- mutual concession
- reciprocity
- back-and-forth
Antonyms
- one-sidedness
- take without giving
- all take and no give