get out of hand
Meaning
To become out of control; to escalate beyond what can be managed.
Origin
From the idea of physically holding or controlling something with your hand; once it slips from your grasp, you can’t manage it. Recorded in English from at least the 1700s.
Notes
Often used for situations that escalate (arguments, crowds, workloads). Neutral to negative tone; common in everyday speech and writing.
Examples
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The party got out of hand when uninvited guests started showing up.
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I tried to keep the debate civil, but it quickly got out of hand.
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If we don’t address these bugs now, the project could get out of hand.
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His spending has gotten out of hand since he got a new credit card.
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The small disagreement got out of hand and turned into a shouting match.
Grammar & Usage Notes
Usually used as “get(s)/got/has gotten out of hand.” Can also be “things went out of hand.” Often with “before it gets out of hand.” Fixed phrase; don’t change “hand” to plural.
Synonyms
- get out of control
- spin out of control
- run wild
- escalate
Antonyms
- be under control
- be manageable
- stay in hand