chip on your shoulder
Meaning
To be resentful about something from the past and be easily offended or looking for a fight.
Origin
From a 19th‑century practice of placing a wood chip on one’s shoulder and daring others to knock it off—an open invitation to start a fight.
Notes
Negative nuance: implies resentment and a touchy, combative attitude. Common in conversation; can sound judgmental if said directly to someone.
Examples
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Ever since he was passed over for promotion, he’s had a chip on his shoulder at work.
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You don’t need to come in with a chip on your shoulder—nobody here is against you.
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She’s got a chip on her shoulder about where she grew up, so she snaps at people who mention it.
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He apologized, but he still has a chip on his shoulder and won’t let it go.
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The new coach plays like he has a chip on his shoulder, trying to prove everyone wrong.
Grammar & Usage Notes
Usually used with HAVE: “have/has/had a chip on one’s shoulder.” Possessive changes (my/your/his/her/their). Also: “with a chip on his shoulder.” Article “a” is typical.
Synonyms
- have a grudge
- be resentful
- carry a grievance
- have an axe to grind
- nurse a grievance
Antonyms
- be easygoing
- let bygones be bygones
- have no hard feelings
- take it in stride