carry the torch
Meaning
To keep loving or yearning for someone, often unrequited or after the relationship has ended.
Origin
From the image of carrying a torch or flame as a symbol of passion and enduring love; popularized by Romantic-era poetry and later by songs/films using “torch” for love.
Notes
Usually about lingering romantic feelings, often unrequited; can sound wistful or slightly pitying. Common in conversation and writing. Be tactful—can imply someone can’t move on.
Examples
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Even after they broke up, he still carried the torch for her.
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She’s been carrying a torch for her high school crush for years.
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I thought I’d moved on, but I was still carrying the torch when I saw him again.
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He carried the torch quietly, never telling anyone how he felt.
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Don’t wait around carrying the torch—go meet someone new.
Grammar & Usage Notes
Fixed phrase: carry the torch (for someone). Verb inflects (carries/carried), but “the torch” is typically kept. Often used in progressive/perfect (is/was carrying; has carried).
Synonyms
- pine for someone
- hold a candle for someone
- still have feelings for someone
- carry a torch for someone
Antonyms
- move on
- get over someone
- fall out of love