burn bridges
Meaning
To destroy relationships or options so you cannot go back to a previous situation; to make a return or reconciliation impossible.
Origin
From military tactics of burning bridges after crossing a river to prevent retreat. The image became a metaphor for cutting off one’s own way back and eliminating alternatives.
Notes
Usually negative and cautionary. Implies an irreversible decision that damages relationships or future options. Common in work/relationship contexts, often as advice: “Don’t burn bridges.”
Examples
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Before you quit, talk to your manager—there’s no need to burn bridges.
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She apologized after the argument because she didn’t want to burn bridges with her teammates.
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If you post that rant online, you might burn bridges with future employers.
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Even though he was angry, he left the company politely so he wouldn’t burn bridges.
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I’m switching clients, but I’ll do it carefully; I don’t want to burn bridges.
Grammar & Usage Notes
Fixed phrase: “burn bridges” (often plural). Can inflect: burn/burned/burning. Common in negatives/imperatives (“don’t burn bridges”). Often used with “with” + person/group.
Synonyms
- cut ties
- sever ties
- burn your boats
- cross the Rubicon
- slam the door
- irreversibly damage relations
Antonyms
- keep your options open
- leave the door open
- build bridges
- mend fences