bend over backwards
Meaning
To make an extreme effort to help someone or achieve something, often more than is reasonable or necessary.
Origin
From the image of contorting your body into an awkward, extreme position; recorded in English from the early 20th century as a metaphor for going to great lengths.
Notes
Means making an excessive effort. Often appreciative, but can imply “too much” or self-sacrifice, even mild criticism. Used in everyday and workplace contexts.
Examples
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I bent over backwards to help her meet the deadline.
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The hotel staff will bend over backwards to make your stay comfortable.
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He’s always bending over backwards to keep everyone happy.
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We don’t expect you to bend over backwards, but a little flexibility would help.
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She bent over backwards for the company, and they still let her go.
Grammar & Usage Notes
Usually used as a verb phrase: “bend over backwards to + verb” or “bend over backwards for + person.” Can inflect (bent/bending), but the core phrase is fixed.
Synonyms
- go out of your way
- go to great lengths
- make every effort
- move heaven and earth
- spare no effort
Antonyms
- take it easy
- make no effort
- refuse to help
- do the bare minimum